A Party Night: 60+ Spicy Never Have I Ever Questions

Want to talk about something more interesting than small talk and find out some exciting stories? "Never Have I Ever" is the perfect party game for a fun night with friends. If you're playing with a crush, your partner, or a close friend group, the right questions can help you find out more and get real. Below is a list of spicy "Never Have I Ever" questions for adults, plus tips to play safely—and keep the memories alive.

Why “Never Have I Ever” Works So Well

"Never Have I Ever" is simple but powerful. Players make statements starting with "Never have I ever …." Anyone who has done that thing responds (by putting down a finger, taking a sip, etc.). There are different versions, including one with 10 fingers and another for drinking. wikipedia

This game is more than just fun. Psychologists and social theorists say that playing together helps children build trust, empathy, and social skills.

Playing is good for adults too. It can reduce stress, make you more creative, and help people connect with each other.

So when you choose to play "Never Have I Ever," you're not just playing a game—you're creating space for being honest and making real connections with other people.

🎯 Golden Rules for a Spicy (Yet Safe) Game

The most important thing about a great game is the feeling you get from playing it. Before you start, make sure you're in the right frame of mind.

How to Play: Everyone starts with 10 fingers raised (or uses tokens). A player reads a statement that says something like "I have never done this..." If you have done it, you can either lower one finger or take the specified action. The last person with fingers/tokens left "wins.”

Set the heat level before you start: As a group, decide how spicy questions should get. Add a "pass/skip" option so people don't feel forced to do something they don't want to.

No Judgment Zone: The game is about stories, not shame. Anything you share in the game will stay in the game.

Respect Boundaries: Don't force people to do things they don't want to. If someone seems uncomfortable, don't force them to do something they don't want to.

Spicy “Never Have I Ever” Questions (Organized by Intensity)

You can start gently or go straight into the heat. Use these categories to match the mood of your group.

Flirty & Fun Questions (Starting Hot)

These are great for getting everyone talking and feeling relaxed.

I've never kissed more than one person in one night.

I would never kiss someone just to make someone else jealous.

I've never used a cheesy pickup line that actually worked.

I've never had a crush on a friend's partner.

I would never send a "you up?" text after midnight.

I would never pretend to be bad at something just so someone would "teach" me.

I've never been on a date in public.

I have never received a text that made me blush in public.

I would never go on a date just for a free meal.

I've always known the last name of the person I've kissed.

I would never flirt with a waiter to get better service.

I've never accidentally sent a flirty text to the wrong person.

I would never stalk a crush's ex on social media.

I've never given someone a hickey.

I would never lie about my hobbies to make myself more interesting.

I've never gone back to someone's house on the first date.

I've never had a crush on a professor or boss.

I have never been the "other person.”

I would never pretend not to see someone I knew on a dating app.

I have never ever thought about kissing someone in this room.

Revealing Relationship Questions (Turning Up the Heat)

These questions go a little deeper, looking at past relationships, how you usually act when you're dating, and thoughts you don't usually share.

I've never gotten back together with an ex.

I've always meant it when I say "I love you.”

I've never had a "friends with benefits" situation.

I've never had a crush on someone else while I was in a relationship.

I would never look through a partner's phone.

I've never had a short-term relationship after a breakup.

I have never disliked a partner's best friend.

I have always been honest about how many people I have slept with in the past.

I've never been on a blind date.

I have never broken up with someone by text.

I have never had a bad first kiss.

I have never ever thought about getting back with an ex.

I've never been in love with two people at the same time.

I would never do anything to make a partner jealous on purpose.

I have never had my heart truly broken.

I have never broken anyone else's heart.

I've never really liked a casual hookup.

I've never been in an open relationship.

I've never thought about getting married to someone I'm dating.

Full-On 🔥 (Maximum Spice)

Just a friendly warning: This round is not for people who get scared easily! These questions are designed to be fun and reveal surprising things about you.

I've never gone skinny-dipping.

I would never send a self-portrait of myself wearing no clothes.

I've never had a one-night stand.

I've never used a sex toy with a partner.

I have never had a sex dream about a friend.

I have never been in a situation where I was in a compromising position.

I've never slept with a colleague.

I've never tried anything in the bedroom that I saw in a movie.

I've never had a threesome.

I've never slept with someone I've met on the same day.

I've never been intimate in a car.

I have never been in the "mile high club.”

I've never role-played in the bedroom.

I've never had a sexy playlist ready to go.

I've never listened to audio erotica before.

I have never been attracted to someone who is much older or younger than me.

I've never had to deal with a walk of shame.

I've never faked an orgasm.

I've never had sex somewhere that wasn't completely private.

I've never slept with someone whose name I can't remember.

What to Do After the Game

The fun doesn't have to stop when the questions end. Try using Tellsomething. To keep the memories—and maybe make one of them into something more.

Game Night Confessional: Write a short story about the funniest or most surprising answer you heard.

Photo/Video Journal: Take photos of people's reactions (as long as you ask them first). Upload it as a memory with a caption in your private space.

Flirty Follow-Up Message: If you played with a crush or partner, send them a love letter mentioning one of their spicy answers. It makes the game into a date that is waiting to happen.

Final Thoughts

The point of "Never Have I Ever" isn't to shock or embarrass people. It's to get people talking, build empathy, and make connections stronger. It doesn't matter if you're being flirty or if you go all out and are super daring. What matters is having a good time and how you feel afterwards.

Use the questions above to set boundaries that are healthy for you, and enjoy watching those boundaries being broken down. Your next game night might just become one of your favorite memories.