100 Conversation Starters for Couples to Bring You Closer to Your Partner
Talking to each other is the most important part of any relationship, and that's exactly why these conversation starters are so great for couples. If you're just starting to date someone, or if you're engaged or in a long-term relationship, having a conversation can help you get back in touch with each other and understand each other better. This can make your relationship stronger.
This improved guide is based on relationship psychology and has been approved by the Gottman Institute (https://www.gottman.com). It contains 100 questions to get you thinking, laughing, and feeling romantic.
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1. Fun and Lighthearted Questions
These simple, fun questions are great for getting your thinking cap on.
- If you could star in any TV show, which one would it be and why?
- What's your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday?
- If we could only eat one food forever, what would you choose?
- What's the funniest embarrassing moment you've ever had?
- If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
- What's your favorite cheesy pickup line?
- Would you rather be able to speak every language or play every instrument?
- If you could be any fictional character, who would you pick?
- Which ice cream flavor matches your personality?
- What karaoke song would you sing without thinking twice?
2. Deep and Thought-Provoking Questions
These questions will help you explore what matters to you, your dreams, and how deep your feelings are.
- What does a perfect day look like?
- What is a dream you have never told anyone about?
- What does a healthy relationship look like?
- Which of your most important beliefs affects your life the most?
- Do you believe in soulmates?
- Is there something you've always wanted to ask me?
- What one mistake shaped who you are?
- How do you recharge and take care of yourself?
- What causes do you care about?
- Do you believe that fate or free will decides what happens to us?
3. Questions About the Past
Make your relationship stronger by talking about each other's past.
- What is your favorite memory from when you were a child?
- What did you think of me when you first met me?
- Who was your best friend at school?
- What skill do you wish you had learned sooner?
- What was your favorite school subject?
- Which family traditions had the most influence on you?
- What is the most important tradition for you today?
- What's the most adventurous thing you've ever done?
- When did you first realize you loved me?
- What embarrassing moment from your past do you laugh about now?
4. Questions About the Future
These questions help you understand what you want to achieve, your dreams, and your plans.
- What should we do together that would be on our bucket list?
- What do you think our lives will be like in ten years?
- What are your relationship goals for us?
- What new hobby should we try together?
- Where should we go next?
- What fear would you like to overcome?
- Do you want to start a business or creative project?
- What does retirement look like to you?
- If you could live anywhere, where would you go?
- What do you want to be remembered for?
5. Love and Relationship Questions
It is meant to get people talking about how they feel and about being close to each other.
- What's your love language?
- What makes you feel most loved?
- How can we talk to each other better?
- What is your favorite memory of us?
- How do you like to show you care?
- What have you learned about love from our relationship?
- How do you deal with conflict?
- What can we do to keep the romance alive?
- What are your fears about relationships?
- What do you think is the most important thing for a partnership to be healthy?
6. Hypothetical & “Would You Rather” Questions
They make you think in a playful way.
- Would you like to travel to the past or future?
- If you were stuck on an island, which three things would you take with you?
- Would you like to have dinner with anyone, whether they're alive or dead?
- Fly or become invisible?
- Swap lives with someone for a day—who would you choose?
- Is it better not to sleep or not to eat?
- If you won the lottery, what would you do first?
- Would you prefer to explore space or the deep ocean?
- You can learn any language, any time.
- Do you want to be able to talk to animals or control the weather?
7. Fun and Silly Questions
It is perfect for couples who love laughter.
- What's your favorite joke?
- If you were an animal, which one would you be and why?
- What's your signature dance move?
- If you were a superhero, what would your power be?
- What is the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?
- If you could invent a new holiday, what would you celebrate?
- What's the one song that you always dance to?
- If you were a type of weather, what would you be?
- What talent do you think is the most useless?
- If our life were a movie, what genre would it be?
8. Questions About Daily Life
To help you understand what people usually do.
- What's your ideal morning routine?
- What do you do when you get home from work?
- What habit do you want to start?
- Which bad habit do you want to break?
- What's your favorite meal of the day?
- Is it a home office or a proper office?
- How do you keep going when things get tough?
- What makes you happy straight away?
- What's your favorite exercise or activity?
- How important is it to take care of yourself every day?
9. Questions About Favorites
Simple but important preferences.
- What's your favorite film?
- What is your favorite author or book?
- What's your favorite quote?
- What's your favorite season, and why?
- What's your favorite thing about yourself?
- What is your favorite memory of us?
- What's your favorite cuisine?
- What's your favorite relaxing place?
- What's your favorite hobby?
- Who's your favorite musician or band?
10. Deep Questions for Deeper Connection
For being honest and showing feelings.
- What do you think about forgiveness?
- How do you deal with stress?
- What does success mean to you?
- What does happiness mean to you?
- What are you working on improving this year?
- What are the most important things that influence your decisions?
- How do you deal with disappointment?
- What life lesson has had the most influence on you?
- How do you think our relationship will grow?
- What can we do to make our connection even stronger?
Conclusion
Talking about things that matter is one of the best ways to get closer to someone. These conversation starters for couples to feel closer are designed to help you build curiosity, empathy, and trust with your partner. They can be used at any stage of your relationship.
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